Living with Roommates
What to Expect and How to Prepare…
The roommate relationship is often a crucial part of a student’s college experience. Being away from home and living with another person (sometimes for the first time) can be challenging as well as exciting. It is important that students have realistic expectations of the roommate relationship. Roommates can become friends or may strictly share a common space. Whatever the relationship, it is necessary to have respect, boundaries and communication between roommates. When beginning a relationship with your roommate, be aware of yourself: understand your own quirks, strengths and vices.
We require all roommates to complete a Roommate Agreement at the beginning of the fall semester. These agreements outline several topics that could potentially cause problems between roommates. After reviewing and discussing the agreement together, the residents of each room come up with boundaries that they will agree to live by for the year. Each room’s RA then goes over the contract with them and they all sign it. A summary of the contract is filed in the Residence Director’s office for future reference if a conflict arises, and the agreement packet is left with the residents for their use in dialoguing with one another about possible issues.
Tips for Successful Roommate Relationships
- From the very start of your relationship with your roommates, communication and honesty are key.
- Respect each other for your differences and work together to find commonalities.
- Talk to your roommates directly rather than behind his or her backs.
- When discussing issues that may arise in the room, use statements such as "I feel like you are..." rather than statements that can sound blaming and often shut people down.
- Compromise - work together to find solutions that will benefit all members of the room.
- Most importantly: utilize your roommate agreement. It is there to serve as a guideline. By taking it seriously in the beginning and adhering to the established boundaries, you will avoid many problems. Use them as a reference point if one roommate is not staying within the set contract. This is a resource that will only be effective if used by the students.
We are here to help
While the Residence Life Staff does encourage students to communicate and work through roommate conflicts, we are always here to help. You have a trained and talented Resident Assistant (RA) staff as well as experienced Residence Directors in each building. Do not hesitate to use them as a resource as you sort through your roommate concerns. Once students have used roommate contracts, mediation and communication to work through roommate issues, if a change is desired, please submit a room change request for staff review.
Anderson Hall Residence Director: 406.238.7295
Rimview Hall Residence Director: 406.247.2640
Widenhouse Hall Residence Director: 406.238.7297
Housing Emergency On Call: 406.698.8777
Rocky Mountain College Counseling Center: 406.657.1049
Department of Housing & Residence Life Office: 406.657.1051